Thursday, March 12, 2009

This stinks

Um, parts of the adoption process just suck. We were packed and ready to go Tuesday night, and just called our agent to make sure everything was still on for us to fly out Wednesday morning. The birth mom is MIA. No one could find her or get a hold of her--not our agent, not her social worker, not her doctor. WTH? You know, Dan and I have prepared ourselves that something might happen; we went into this process (especially because of what has happened in the past) knowing that things might not go according to plan. But I don't understand why someone would just vanish? Own up to your decisions please. Answer your phone and say you changed your mind. Heck, even if you were just playing the system all along, please continue your little charade and tell your social worker you are not going to go through with the adoption. She knew that we were planning on flying out Wednesday, she didn't care that we would be out tickets, car, and hotel?

Rereading what I just wrote, it's pretty obvious that my emotion right now is one of anger. I am definitely more angry than sad right now. Like I said, I had prepared myself emotionally for the worst, but I can't get over the fact that she just didn't care at all to answer for herself.

Anyway, we really are doing okay, just letting go of some of this bitterness. We do want to say a big thank you to all who have kept us in your prayers. We still feel like we need to keep pursuing adoption, and I know that our baby is going to find his or her way into our home. Thanks again!

9 comments:

Alisha said...

I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how frustrated you must be. We will continue to keep you in our prayers.

erin j bailey said...

Angela,
I know it must be very hard to deal with all of this and I'm so sorry that you've had to go through it. My only thoughts are that I know that you and Dan are amazing parents...you can tell every time Tyler gets up to bear his testimony that you strive to teach the gospel in your home. You are an example of the kind of mother I want to be. I know this will happen for you when it is supposed to and that the child that comes into your home will be blessed because of it.
We are praying for you. Please let us know if there is anyway we can help out.

michelle said...

I'm so sorry! I wish I could do something more for you guys. I pray everyday for you both(I'm not kidding) You both are great parents and you both would do anything for anyone!:)Just know that it will happen!I will continue to pray for you and dan!:)

Brit said...

Oh Angela, I am so sorry for your family. I just don't even know what to say. Looking back on our struggles to become parents, I wish I had handled it with the kind of faith and strength that I have watched you have through this whole ordeal. You are my hero! Please know that your family is constantly in our prayers and that we love you all.

Crystal said...

oh, I am so sorry. I truly am. You both are awesome parents and when the right baby comes along, it's going to be so blessed to have you as parents. We will continue to pray for you and your family.

Kelsey said...

Ang- I dont know how much more of this you are supposed to take! You know that I will be there for you whenever you need it! Everyone else has said it best- you guys will get the right baby and give it all the love and teaching that it deserves. I love you!!!

Speers Family said...

You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Tresa Fowler said...

You're right - that stinks! Hang in there. We are praying for you!

Camilla said...

Arghhh, that just plain stinks.

That really was very inconsiderate of her. I think you have every right to be frustrated.